Today we are gathered here to celebrate Sandra Shalter. Sandra lead an extraordinary life.
Shall we start at the beginning?
Born to Alice Janet Althouse and Ralph Shalter in 1944 in Reading, Pennsylvania. She and her brother, Michael, were raised by their very independent mother âJanetâ after Ralph passed from heart complications due to scarlet fever in his youth. They shared many happy memories with cousins David, Diane and Kathy.
Sandra had an infectious laugh, a wonderful sense of humor, and embraced life. Her passions were travel, she was a voracious reader and an amazing cook. She was a devoted Nana to six grandchildren- Anthony, Gabriel, Braxton, Freya, Virginia and Vesna. And a loving Mother to her two children âLisa Kateâ and Joe. Thomas was as a devoted son.
Sandra lived her happiest years in Rome, Italy with her second husband of 25 years, Roberto Magini. In Italy she divided her time between Rome, Arezzo and Boccali, Reggio Calabria. As an educator by profession, it was in Rome that she enjoyed teaching British English at The British School for many years. In Arezzo, Sandra and Roberto renovated a 100 year old Magini Family villa. The villa held much history. It was in the villa that The Magini family had hid Jewish citizens from the Nazis during World War 2. In the tunnels in the mountainside the family had hid during the Allied bombings. Sandra loved the rich history this house held and its beautiful Tuscan views. Their farmer made olive oil from their olive groves. Mom spent countless hours gardening the lovely hillside.
But Roberto and Sandraâs story first began in her 20âs in Boccali, Reggio Calabria, in the toe of Italyâs boot. My Mother had just graduated college and went on a European vacation with her girlfriends. On the Italian beachside leg of the trip, my Mother met Roberto on Boccaliâs stone beaches. Boccali was Robertoâs birthplace and yet another place she and Roberto would later spend much of their time, enjoying the wine produced on the Family lands. Their love affair began there until life carried them in separate directions only to be reunited again in 1984.
Sandraâs brother, Mike, had long since moved to France, to start his family and profession and settled in Riom. Janet, their Mother, joined Mike in Riom. Mike had two children, beloved by Sandra, Yanette and Christopher. Janet lived her final years in a small convent in the French countryside, which is where she was laid to rest. Sandraâs nephew, Christopher, whom she had longed to reunite, was killed in the 2015 Paris terrorist attacks, while he was out for an evening with friends at the Bataclan nightclub. News of Christopherâs death forever took a piece of my Motherâs heart.
Sandra had many dear lifelong friends that were as sisters to her. Daniela, her best friend in Rome. Sally a childhood friend from Pennsylvania. Ann and Cindy life long friends here in the DMV area.
Robertoâs family were as her own. Beloved Nonna, sisters Gabriela and Anna Maria and their children, Francesca Romana, Tulia, Lydia and Gitano. Cousins Paolo, Francesca, Sirio, Mary Ann.
We also may not forget, Bella, Sandraâs Maltese companion. She was forever on her lap…
As we grieve her loss, let us remember the amazing woman we hold in our hearts. My Mother was my kindred spirit in so many ways. She lived life to the fullest, in her earlier years, embracing all that life had to offer.
My Mother asked for a Celebration of Life, similar to what she described as an âIrish Style Wake.â Mom requested margaritas and snacks, a time to tell stories and remembrances, rather than a tearful goodbye. Upon research, I learned traditionally in the Irish countryside, wakes were held as a send off for loved ones, there were white linens and white flowers, described to be a glorious send off, with smiles and warmth, food and drink in the personâs home with music.
Please join us in celebrating the life of Sandra Lynn Shalter, my Beloved Mother, as we listen to another of my Motherâs great loves, arias by Andrea Bocelli.
Fond farewell to one held so dear
Miss me – but let me go
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me
I want no tears in a gloom filled room
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little – but not too long
And not with your head bowed low
Remember the love that we once shared
Miss me – but let me go.
For this is a journey we all must take
And each must go alone
It’s part of the Master’s plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to the friends we know
And bury your sorrows in doing good works
Miss me – but let me go.
Perhaps if we could see
The splendour of the land
To which our loved are called
From you and me.
We’d understand
Perhaps is we could hear
The welcome they receive
From old familiar voices
All so dear.
We would not grieve.
Perhaps if we could know
The reason why they went,
We’d smile – and wipe away
The tears that flow:
We’d wait content.
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